When someone gets upset you've set a boundary with them, take note. Here's why:
Statements like that used to make me feel sick to my stomach. As someone who is intuitive and empathic, feeling other peoples "stuff" created over-stimulation and overwhelm inside of me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It also felt at times that because I could readily feel others emotions it would cloud mine. Then all of a sudden I'm taking stands on topics that I'm uninterested in or meh about, going along for rides I didn't want or ask to be a part of, and in relationships and friendships that.... Didn't really serve either person - but voicing it, naming "it" was damn near impossible. Or afterward when all is said and done, you've committed yourself, people are relying on you, and... As they say, hindsight is 20/20.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I've made promises and not been able to show up. Ive had interactions with people where... You know at least one of you isn't in full heart with whatever's happening, but there the fuck you both are! Caught in a catch-22.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My body (and yours, btw!) is WISE. It tells me when things are off or when things are fuckin spectacular and jivin'!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ However, there can be disconnects.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How do we come to a bodily knowing and communicate from that knowingness? And when we do, is everything wine and roses?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The answer is, this is a learn-able skill. It also likely won't be all wine and roses...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you choose to honor how you're feeling, because your feelings are VALID AF, and you set boundaries with people who knew the old you, YOU WILL SHAKE SHIT UP.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It's a necessary thing - to make change you have to do things differently.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The old you would waffle and kinda sorta say "Uhm yeah okay sure I'll be at your Tupperware party Brenda. 6:15 pm Friday? Of course I'll wear the shirt with the pink poodle on it you got me that one Christmas..."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While this newly minted and fully expressed, embodied you would be transparent, "Thank you for the invitation but Tupperware is just not my jam Brenda."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Or maybe you grew out of Brenda because your boundaries and values became more defined and things shifted.